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Distinguishing feelings from thoughts

Menno van der Land / April 10, 2019

How many times do we say or think: Probably I use some of these expressions myself sometimes as well. But these are not feelings. They are thoughts. You think you are powerless and…

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Every time someone asks me if I have children, and my answer is ‘no’, I am amazed that the default follow-up question is: “why not?” Apparently it’s OK to ask people to justify their highly personal life choices. Especially when those choices deviate from what is considered ‘normal.’ People who do have children rarely have to defend themselves. Although in my opinion it makes more sense to ask people why they chose to have children. A convincing answer to why you would bring children into this world, proving you have given it proper consideration, seems more appropriate to me than having to justify staying childfree.